Hurt. Loss. Grief. Betrayal. Confusion.
These are all ugly things we tend to push away or run away from. I’m sure you might have had moments where you thought to yourself, “Enough! That’s all I can handle. Get me out of this situation!” I’ve been there numerous of times in my life. Many instances I’ve failed to see the PURPOSE behind the PAIN; until recently, God REVEALED to me that pain is not something we should fight against, but it is in fact something we should find beauty in.
As a Believer, I know that God never wastes anything, including our pain. It has been my own personal experience that pain has been one of my greatest teachers in life. Ultimately you can use pain to harden your heart or make your heart more compassionate towards the people around you. Know this…behind the brutality of pain in your life is a beauty that God wants to Reveal to you. Paul says in 2 Corinthians 4:17-18:
(For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.)
I want to share a few insights that I got from this book that I think will reframe the way you think about pain in your life. Especially for leaders, it is a beautiful paradox to be able to be completely honest with your limitations yet be bold in vision; be driven but your heart is at rest; be free from proving yourself and have nothing to lose. Pain has a way of making humility our foundation for success. I encourage you to read the whole thing when you get a chance. Be Blessed! Be Revealed!
Leadership Pain: The Classroom For Growth by Samuel R. Chand
- Often the difference between where I am and where God wants me to be is the pain I’m unwilling to endure.
- You’ll grow only to the threshold of your pain.
- Have a rigorous personal development plan. Don’t coast. Read the best authors, spend time with courageous leaders, and craft a plan to sharpen your skills.
- Leaders of larger organizations have proven they can handle more pain.
- For those who want quick fixes, I have found there aren’t any – and there never have been.
- The word “passion” literally means “pain.” Passion is about suffering for what you love!
- Difficulties are God’s curriculum for those who want to excel.
- As a leader, your most valuable resource is your own heart.
- Pain is inevitable. Misery is optional. Become a person who has learned to bounce back in life.
- Secure leaders learn to be gracious givers AND RECEIVERS.
- Our leadership is far more attractive and authentic when we’ve been broken and then lead out of humility instead of pride.
- In business, the failure to ask and answer the hard questions can mean the difference between life and death.
- God sometimes delivers us from pain, but more often he delivers us through it.
- We need to realize that painful incidents are rocket boosters that can propel us to a higher orbit.
- God has not promised us a happy life. He promised us a meaningful life.
- Mental tenacity is the ability to manage and even thrive on and push through pain. It is the key segregator between mortals and immortals.
- How you think when you lose determines how long it will be until you win.
- True friends are invaluable.
- I’ve never known any leaders who THRIVED in their roles, in their families, or in their lives, without at least a few trusted friends.
- When I need gas for my car, I go to a gas station. Who fills your spiritual and emotional gas tank?